i dunno kym i have met some people that make me question that hehe

 

 

Because it is new and people put on a show.

This normally happen because each party starts off putting on a show. Everyone want to make a good impression during courtship, the goal is to keep the image untarnished through out the courtship phase. People are willing to concede to a lot of issues for the shake of making a good impression and maintaining that spotless image.

After the courtship/show is over each party becomes comfortable. They are secure in the direction of the relationship. (Keep in mind that everyone starts a relationship with the intent of sucess and may sway in opinions and watch their P's and Q's in order to keep thing going in the right direction.)

Once the verbal contract is made on the relationship, each party feel comfortable enough to release some of the thoughts held back in the courtship phase or stop doing some of the things done during courtship.

Advice/example: If you did not open car doors during the courtship phase and will not have to open car doors during the relationship either. If you did it during courtship then you should continue afterward.

Only do what you intend on doing for the rest of your life.

Just with everything else you have to maintain it. Relationship can get old if you let it. Don't get into a routine, change things whenever you can. Make plans and carry them out. Make a punch list of what you want to try and do together then do it. If she wants to take a flower arrangement class, you learn about flower arrangement, schedule the class for her and take it with her. It will never hurt you to learn something new. If he wants to go the Laguna Seca, you find out what and where it is and take him.

I never knew what art was until I went to Getty Center. Here a story (I have one for everything). I enter the gallery and I see these people sitting in the sofa just gazing at these paintings and I think to myself "you are so lame, it's just a painting dumass" 15 mins later my *** is sitting on the sofa in amazement of how these painting expresses so much. They were done in the 16 and 17 century and now I can understand why someone would want Rembrandt's.

That experience show me that there is excitement in everything you just have to open your mind to understand it. Even Square dancing.

Lean about what the others interest are and make it part of yours.

If your interest are so far apart then there might be other underlying issues you need to address instead.

Opposites attract applies to magnets not relationships. (My opinion only)

If you truly are into that person then just the exerience of seeing them happy makes you happy.

Just like I said before. If both of you are giving 100% then both of you are receiving 100%.

the janitor

 

You know Kevin, here's what really funny about my relationship.

I've been with Lisa for 6 years and then some.

In the beginning it was great honeymoon stage lasted maybe 6 months.
Now we are on the reflecting stage of our relationship. We have nothing in common except our finances. The only thing we do together is eat, watch TV, shop, argue, and sleep.

She's a nurse, picky about health. I smoke and drink a lot.

We are total opposites. What I have realized with relationships...


The honeymoon stage ends, then its up to you and your partner to make the relationship move to the next step. Since you are living together with your significant other. Whats next? Ask yourself what is the next logical step and are you ready to make it. The longer you wait in that same spot, the more the damage will be done to the relationship because its not moving forward, only sinking.

 

woa are we talking about marage?

 

usually thats what is next

Not to stereotype women.

But come on, since birth women have a one track mind leading to one goal only, having a family. Everything is planned out for them even before they can walk.

Men on the other hand do not. Most cases men only get married because they are told to, got tricked into it, or need money.


But for Kevin it may be too early to tell. Not sure how you can make your relationship more exciting. For some couples they venture out and experiment with their sexuality trying multiple or different partners as a couple.

Others just tough it out and eventually the women will trick you into getting her pregnant (she's on the pill but stopped and forgot to tell you). or someone will cheat on someone.

 

ahh the imfamous 'post honey moon stage' dilema.

Well, I was asked to contribute as I am one of those few who are in real relationships not "people who ********** to myspace".

I may be simplifying the situation but it really boils down to this...

step 1:
realise and understand that the honeymoon stage is over and that from now on it can/will never be the same as when you first dated.

step 2:
take a deep look into your relationship. Do the things your significant other does now annoy you? i.e. you used to think her sneezes was cute but now you cant stand it and wish she would sneeze like a normal human being?

If you see more negatives than positives, you may want to reconsider as the little things grow and become a huge elephant (not mike) lurking in the room.

step 3:
compromise. In a every relationship there needs to be compromises between the 2 of you. If you find yourself compromising more than you want to, it may be time to rethink the situation.

 

kids suck.

 

gah

where are these kinds of girls at??!?!?1

 

once i've develop my empire.. i will clone kevins exponentially.