Need a job for my girlfriend ASAP?
12-15-2004, 10:42 AM
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I'm sorry dr3d1zzl3, we are not trying to choose the type of job, but Sac is way to far for her and please don't throw in any BS comments if you are not willing to help.
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12-15-2004, 12:28 PM
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Originally Posted by pleiad7
Well, things aren't quite that easy, and he probably shouldn't let himself be pressured by her immigration status when it comes down to making a life-changing decision such as whether to marry her or not. He needs to be sure that she's really "the one" before making such a decision, and that he's not marrying her for the wrong reasons. When my husband and I decided to get married, I was on an H1B visa (which is temporary), and I have to admit that my immigration status influenced that decision at least to a certain degree. I have regretted that to this day, and guess what, after less than two years we are now in the process of divorce. Sucks for me (back to H1B, oh well, at least I still have my job), but it sucks even more for my soon-to-be ex, because if I felt like it, I could just max out my credit cards (all $40K worth of them) and leave the country. Guess who would be picking up the tab, even after the divorce is final? That's right, my green card "sponsor", aka ex-hubby. But I'm not that evil... 
12-15-2004, 01:51 PM
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Financial issues prevent you from getting married?... uhm... get a civil marriage (you just file the papers at the courthouse) and you are married. It costs .. hmm.. 25 bucks? I forget exactly.
If you really want her to stay, marry her civilly, let her take her time to find a real job that will pay her well, and sponsor her citizenship, or at least her green card. If you are paranoid that it won't work out 1) set up a prenup or 2) your relationship isn't strong enough for marriage. Seriously, why the hesitation to marry her? It can't just be financial, because marrying her means you will get income into the household when she gets a job. A civil marriage is 10 minutes of paperwork and the filing fee.
Trying to find a job for her "in a hurry" will land you into as many issues as getting married. Underpayment, underemployment, unpaid overtime, etc. are just some problems you will run into for getting a job as a visa holder (I speak from experience with a lot of H1Bs and green card workers I have known in my other jobs). Plus converting is a serious pain.
If you want her to stay badly enough, then there must be some motivation there, aside from any physical involvements. You have until Oct. 05 to decide if it's enough to marry her. Frankly, since all H1Bs are gone, you have to find some other way of getting her a job. A lot of hiring managers will not want to hire someone they know MAY not be a long term prospect.
Financial issues prevent you from getting married?... uhm... get a civil marriage (you just file the papers at the courthouse) and you are married. It costs .. hmm.. 25 bucks? I forget exactly.
If you really want her to stay, marry her civilly, let her take her time to find a real job that will pay her well, and sponsor her citizenship, or at least her green card. If you are paranoid that it won't work out 1) set up a prenup or 2) your relationship isn't strong enough for marriage. Seriously, why the hesitation to marry her? It can't just be financial, because marrying her means you will get income into the household when she gets a job. A civil marriage is 10 minutes of paperwork and the filing fee.
Trying to find a job for her "in a hurry" will land you into as many issues as getting married. Underpayment, underemployment, unpaid overtime, etc. are just some problems you will run into for getting a job as a visa holder (I speak from experience with a lot of H1Bs and green card workers I have known in my other jobs). Plus converting is a serious pain.
If you want her to stay badly enough, then there must be some motivation there, aside from any physical involvements. You have until Oct. 05 to decide if it's enough to marry her. Frankly, since all H1Bs are gone, you have to find some other way of getting her a job. A lot of hiring managers will not want to hire someone they know MAY not be a long term prospect.
12-15-2004, 02:36 PM
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Originally Posted by shadowcat
Financial issues prevent you from getting married?... uhm... get a civil marriage (you just file the papers at the courthouse) and you are married. It costs .. hmm.. 25 bucks? I forget exactly.
12-15-2004, 03:54 PM
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I'm sorry dr3d1zzl3, we are not trying to choose the type of job, but Sac is way to far for her and please don't throw in any BS comments if you are not willing to help.
Andy
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Lighten up.. keep trying and something will work out.
12-15-2004, 04:56 PM
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don't know if someone said it... but give craigslist.org a shot. I've been working in Marketing and there a lot of jobs that require bilingual.... particulary chinese and japanese.
12-15-2004, 04:59 PM
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Originally Posted by pleiad7
Well, things aren't quite that easy, and he probably shouldn't let himself be pressured by her immigration status when it comes down to making a life-changing decision such as whether to marry her or not. He needs to be sure that she's really "the one" before making such a decision, and that he's not marrying her for the wrong reasons. When my husband and I decided to get married, I was on an H1B visa (which is temporary), and I have to admit that my immigration status influenced that decision at least to a certain degree. I have regretted that to this day, and guess what, after less than two years we are now in the process of divorce. Sucks for me (back to H1B, oh well, at least I still have my job), but it sucks even more for my soon-to-be ex, because if I felt like it, I could just max out my credit cards (all $40K worth of them) and leave the country. Guess who would be picking up the tab, even after the divorce is final? That's right, my green card "sponsor", aka ex-hubby. But I'm not that evil...
12-15-2004, 09:45 PM
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Originally Posted by gh0st shad0w
Divorced huh? PM me lol j/k :banana:
I enjoy waking up with her in the morning, or bringing her a bagel on my way home from work (when I work night audit), and I type this believing that she feels the very same way about waking up with me in her bed.
I'll invite you to the wedding when it happens though, if you promise to bring her an upgrade for her Forester as a gift....
12-15-2004, 10:46 PM
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seriously stop being a little *** and do what you have to do.. money is no ****ign excuse.
if you want her to stay bad enought to beg people for a job for her you should get your *** marrie d(it only costs like 50 bucks or some in san ramon, i know cause my buddy did just that with his gf, civil marriage.. so that she could stay).. so no ****ing **** *** excuses..
either you step to the plate or stop wasting her time as well as your own.. its a really ****ing simple situation man..
you only have a few options..
seriously ***** such as your self just **** me off.. if i ever act like you are now i hope someone slaps some ****ing reality into me.
If she can get a job only in ****ing montana you better belive that if you gave a **** you would A let her go, B. go with her and make **** happen.
blah
grow some ***** man
if you want her to stay bad enought to beg people for a job for her you should get your *** marrie d(it only costs like 50 bucks or some in san ramon, i know cause my buddy did just that with his gf, civil marriage.. so that she could stay).. so no ****ing **** *** excuses..
either you step to the plate or stop wasting her time as well as your own.. its a really ****ing simple situation man..
you only have a few options..
seriously ***** such as your self just **** me off.. if i ever act like you are now i hope someone slaps some ****ing reality into me.
If she can get a job only in ****ing montana you better belive that if you gave a **** you would A let her go, B. go with her and make **** happen.
blah
grow some ***** man