Electra

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WHY do you need to know!? haha classic!

A lot of guys like to say that they are not like everyone else and I cannot tell you how tiring it gets to hear that. If you are really like that, show me. Dont talk about it, just do something. If you can prove it, then you had better be DAMN sure you can maintain that because like she said, once you screw up, its going to make us wonder for how long you had us fooled about how you were different.
I have seen men that I thought were really great, honest and caring turn into something very wicked and evil at the slightest provocation. Its scary. And once that happens, it cannot be taken back and trust is very hard to earn after that.
Does that make sense?

ryball

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Okay, BS aside, here is my advice:

If you want to get laid, don't ask me. I'm not "pullin' hoes". Every long term gf I've had started out as friends. The best relationships, including my wife, were girls I had been friends with for years. DEEP into the "friend zone". There were no surprises when we started dating, I was not "that guy" that hung on hoping for more.

I just found I had better/healthier relationships with girls that I really knew. Sure, the getting to know you while we date thing is fun, I did plenty of that, but it never ended terribly well.

When my wife and I got married, people asked how it was to be married. I told them honestly, it is pretty much the same. We have know each other so well for so long, there were no, "oh my God, if I had known this before we got married..." moments.

Also, women are better at arguing than men most of the time, and "yes, honey, you are right," does not always end the argument.

ryball

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If you knew me, you would be laughing your *** off at this.

VRT MBasile

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oh, so you know women are not fair, but rather than fix that inequality, you expect us to forfeit fairness?

Your honor I'd like to sumbit said statement as evidence of evil #666.

R-Dub

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And this is my view on it now as well. I went WAY too fast with my ex and it burned me BADLY because I didn't know who she was until we were already deeply involved.

No longer, doesn't work like that for me anymore.

ryball

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Oh, and men do not have the market cornered on being cheating *****es.

Another point in favor of dating someone you know - I never had any of my long-term g/f's cheat on me. I cannot say the same for some of the other girls I dated.

VRT MBasile

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Being able to be friends prior to a relationship is a good thing, it means they are someone you get along with and enjoy being around! I agree with you that friendship is not a dead-end fork in the road to a relationship. However, some people don't know how to tell when it doesn't have the potential to be anything more. Sometimes you may try to push it, and you can ruin the friendship....but hey, at least you got to bang a cute redhead whose BF is a dick

I still stand by the "make them laugh" theoryfor picking up randoms/meeting new people scenario. However, the possibility that the hot girl you're about to hit on (because you arentgoing to go hit on ugo's) is someone whose personality will mesh well with yours and you'll want to live the rest of your life with, is very slim.

ryball

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R-Dub

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To every single person that has been in a committed, monogamous relationship and cheated - you need to die in a Magnesium fire; for everyone that has knowingly cheated WITH a partner in an above mentioned relationship - you get to live...after being dragged 50 miles with a rope tired around your neck.

VRT MBasile

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I told her I didn't want to get in the way of whatever (****ed up) relationship they had, and let her make the move she also chested on her previous bf with the current one, and my theory is, if you get them through cheating, expect them to cheat on you.

More evidence of evil

PenguinPrincess

I've been been done so much wrong...I guess it kinda shows lol

ryball

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word.

PenguinPrincess

yet another *high five* it makes TOTAL sense.

Then they go and act like nothing happened.
Man: "What? Why are you mad? I didn't do anything!"
Woman: "Yeah, you're right, you only ran me over with your car."

R-Dub

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Wasn't accusing you personally, I don't know you or what the story is; I'm speaking in general terms only.

There is no deeper betrayal, no attack more malicious than adultery.

VRT MBasile

iTrader: (17)

I've met quite a few women who will judge a man without letting him show who he is. Oh, yeah, I know... It's the little things, right? The handshake, that kind of stiff that says what his values are?

How often has it been that the man "changed" rather than the woman ignored the signs/didn't get to know him well enough before hand? Now, I'm not blaming women specifically, as it's everyone's responsibility to know what they're getting in to. Men do know what we're getting involved with though.... pure evil.

Your examples are a little... extreme?

I wasn't taking it as a personal accusation, just anicdotally expanding upon your point.